Another Chapter Begins… When you enter 41..!!! A new life – New beginning

Holy crap,  Finally I am out of the Hangover of last  12 hours.. Until then I couldn’t really believe this was going to happen to me.. Today I’m going to be completing 40.  How did that happen?  Seriously. I can barely believe it’s 2016. It still sounds like a year in the future of flying cars and home robots.  But, back to me. Of course, I don’t feel 40. I feel about 28 or generously saying 30.  I’ve felt 28 for about the past 5 years. Before that I felt about 20. It’s better than feeling 16.

First time ever in the history of my life on this Planet, I was fooled in by so many people around me in getting me into a Surprise Birthday Party organised by Kinjal & my daughter Tanjal for me. Starting from changing my flight tickets to arranging all my friends and family members to be available much before I come… A great cake, Live music band and Gourmet Dinner for all the guests .. I couldn’t have been happier than this before ever… Especially as it was all being planned since a month and I didn’t even get any smell of it.

I’m happy to be celebrating my 40th birthday even though it’s a little surreal to think about the number. Why? I’m so comfortable in my skin. For my 40th birthday, I’m not going to do anything crazy. I’m not a big fan of parties but the one I had last night was a memorable one.

I’m excited to see what will happen over the next 40+ years of my life. Society and technology have changed so drastically since that day in Jan 1976 when I was born. 10 years ago the internet was still in its relative infancy & we all know how it is now..  

You know what I want for my 50th birthday? Self driving cars or May be a 3 D printer that can print my imagination .

Plus, I have so many things that I want to do.  

1. Start some Social work

2. Complete my Book

3. Travel to some unexplored places around the world

4. Learn to play Guitar

And the list can go on and on… Not to mention all of the creative things welling up inside my brain.  It’s almost overwhelming, but it’s wonderful. Something about turning this particular age makes it different from all previous birthdays, and it’s often strongly resisted.  On one hand people get ideas to gift you books abound with titles such as: 

1. Life After Youth: 

2. Forty — What Next?, 

3. Midolescence: The Dangerous Years.  

& On the other hand, there are also books like 

1. Prime Time: A Guide to the Pleasures and Opportunities of the New Middle Age, 

2. The Male Mid-Life Crisis

3. Fresh Starts After 40

4. and the famous Life Begins at Forty.

These titles reflect the ambivalence and unease that afflict so many people who turn forty. There is a sense that a specific phase is being completed but this also gives rise to anxiety — the well-known mid-life crisis. Feelings of emptiness often accompany the completion of any major project or phase of life. One starts thinking what to do next ?  how to fill the gap ?  For forty+ people, youth and its seemingly limitless possibilities are felt to be ending, ambitions remain unfulfilled, physical energy is often diminished, and death becomes more of a reality.

There are omnipresent reminders: If you are over forty.. like  consulting your doctors become a routine,  Medical tests become customary &  above all, Social functions are frequently classified into two groups: for those Under Forty and those Over Forty.

In the middle of the journey of our life I found myself within a dark forest Where the straight way was lost.

I have a few Points pondering in my mind since last few days while I have been thinking about this day..

Emptiness In The Middle   : This is a feeling that is quite unexplained in words but felt only when you are actually there.. It feels Just like you reached a Milestone and then..a Pause to think how to move forward…Its almost like a new Birth… Believe me.. Once you are there , you will know.. and If you have already been there at 40, you will remember…

Creating a New Being  : This also calls for a new opportunity of creating a new Being.  Until now , I have been living as what I have been trained and learned to live.. Now putting things in perspective and adding experience of 40 years, you  can actually recreate your own being for the next phase.. Yes… That’s really possible…  Try it if you have not.

Growing Older; Becoming Newer  :  As you grow older, ofcourse your physical being is not going to become newer but there is a lot of newness that will now arrive in your life.. For example..

1. · Getting a new Color of Hair (White) if it has already not started

2. · Getting spectacles..

3. · Special Skin textures that we call Wrinkles (LOL)

4. · Pigmentation dots on skin.. It will keep adding going forward  etc.. etc…

I can go on and on writing but have still lot many things to do today … Will come back with my more thoughts on this blog.. Till then.. Enjoy Life.. Stay Healthy and Live fullest.. because

Cheers..!!!