Toxic masculinity is TOXIC!!

Dear society,

Isn’t it ironic that the man who’s given so much importance, be it man-kind, hu-man-ity, wo-man,

well, it’s just man-man-man everywhere, yet this man often feels the most socially invalidated!

We have always obsessed over how tough it is to be a woman, which no doubt it is, but what does it feel like to be a man in this hollowmen world?

Being in an open relationship, men are labelled as disloyal and characterless,

Loving someone wholly and then crying when the heartbreak hurts, men are labelled as simps.

Growing close to just one guy friend who understands, accepts and loves you the way you are with no terms and conditions applied, men are labelled as gay,

Romanticizing every bond that a guy has with that one girl whom he can be naked in front of, not physically but mentally and emotionally, and labelling it as a relationship.

Six-pack abs and veiny hands are looked up to as being so macho and hot, woah he’s a real dude,

And what about those men who desire to seek therapy and feel heard, whole and enough in their own skin?

What do we think of those men who give up on their dreams of being a chef, a fashion designer, or a homemaker, just because these profiles are extremely feminine,

And instead force them to become engineers and doctors, as if Kota being called out a toxic factory, isn’t enough?

Why are men expected to save and women allowed to spend when the family is in crisis?

Why are men so afraid of rejection? Why do they settle down for almost any girl who asks them out?

Why are there millions of men out there dying of heart attacks or ceasing their lives by committing suicide?

Why are men not granted paternity leaves when it’s after all their kid too who is being brought to life?

Why are men expected to always say sorry first and be a listener to the endless rants of women?

Why are men crippled with the anxiety of not being able to earn enough or having to be the sole breadwinner?

Why are men so busy meeting the roles and responsibilities defined by society, that their individuality is lost?

Why are men forced to fake a strong smile and move on, when they want to stop and purge out their caged emotions?

How is it that this human world that’s so independent and modern today, is crushed by a sense of metaphysical emptiness with fragmented societal psyches?

If we expect a man to be manly as the lexis suggests, how about letting them be human because this lexis suggests the same too?

Man is nothing but a connotation for the masculine gender, it by no means translates into adhering to the societal standards of toxic masculinity which is actually so toxic today.

Dear men please be there for other men, and live to express, not just impress.

Dear women stand up for men and let them be, campaign for SheforHe movements.

And lastly,

Dear society, let men be men, accept, cherish, support and love them as they are.

- Haimi Kothari,

My blog: https://ablogabliss.wordpress.com/